It has got to be the most difficult decision a woman can make--to give birth to an infant then to allow another couple to adopt that child knowing that the reality is you will probably never get to meet that little person or know if they have had a good or a bad life. But then--what if the birth mother is too young and her family can't afford to house another mouth to feed and rear to adulthood (as was the case with me or so I've been told). Back then it took longer to adopt a baby and no real information was given as to family medical history etc. No information was ever given about the birth mother or father other then some rudimentary facts-the records were sealed. Luckily that has now changed and more knowledge is forthcoming. I was born in 1950 and I was not taken to my adoptive parents home until 1951. They really checked out the adoptive parents back then to make sure. My parents wanted a child that they were sure was born into the religion they practiced so they went to a specific agency. I sometimes wonder if the fact that I was and am very quiet and have trouble being touchy feely or being held at all actually has to do with the fact that I was left for so long to wait in that, what I can only assume was a foster home. I will say this--my adoptive parents and extended family were and are everything anyone could want. They are my parents and I am not in the least bit interested in knowing or meeting my birth mother, even though in this day and age I could probably find out! And yes, I was told almost before I could understand that I was adopted. As for the parents that want to adopt--they have many questions as well.
But before you give up an infant or adopt one you really should know all the options open to you. You really should find someone knowledgeable who can give you ALL the information. If you are lucky enough to live in Colorado then
Creative Adoptions can help whether you have an unwanted pregnancy or you wish to adopt an infant or an older child. I am sure that most other states have something similar, or at least I hope they do.
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