Dating After Divorce

Monday, November 12, 2012

Dating is a veritable minefield, especially if you are getting back into the dating game after a divorce. Divorced dating can make you feel like a teenager all over again complete with all of those anxious feelings and a serious lack of confidence. So, what can you do to put your nerves at rest and get back in the saddle?

Are you ready?
This is the most important question you can ask yourself; are you ready to start dating again? It doesn’t matter whether it’s been 6 months or 6 years since your marriage ended, if you don’t think you’re ready to start dating, don’t do it!

No negativity
Getting divorced can often leave you with a negative view of marriage and the opposite sex. Try not to carry this negative mindset with you when you start dating again. A negative attitude could stand between you and your soul mate.

What are you looking for?
Establish what it is you are looking for before you start dating. Are you looking for something long term or a casual pick-me-up? Make a firm decision before you step back into the dating game to avoid confusion and disappointment.

Join the digital age
Don’t be afraid to try online dating. There are plenty of sites that offer dating services for divorcees, guaranteeing you a date who knows just how you feel!

Dating in numbers
Don’t expect to fall in love with the first person you go on a date with, we aren’t all that lucky! It’s okay to have a few different dates; after all, you deserve nothing less that perfection.

A date is not a therapy session
Try not to discuss all of the gory details of your divorce on a date – we’ve all got unhappy relationship stories but this isn’t the place to talk about them. Use your date to find out more about each other.

Think of the children
Dating after a divorce can be even more daunting if you have children. If your kids are old enough to understand, explain that you have decided to start dating again. It’s best to keep your children separate from your date to begin with, introductions can happen at a later, and more serious, stage.

Don’t lose your heart; the end of marriage is not the end of the world. You can get back into the dating game and there is another perfect relationship waiting for you.

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Anonymous said...

Really good perspective on what I can only imagine is a really difficult step! Thanks for the post!

Roberta Morales said...

Wow..brave it thanks for the post

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